“You will get what you want, when you focus and stop making excuses on why you don’t have it.”
How do you wake up in the morning?
Do you jump out of bed and look forward to starting the day?
Or do you wake up in the morning and you do not want to get out of bed? You hear the alarm clock ring and you press the snooze button over and over again until you are forced to get up and go to the bathroom?
With the busy life style that we lead today, most of the time we, human beings operate on autopilot, seldom do we stop and ask ourselves essential questions.
We are also being constantly hit with information (breaking news, Whatsapp messages, tweets, emails…) and we are reacting to these situations. Our lives are being controlled by the external environment so much that we have forget the simple concepts of life.
What do you think about when you wake up in the morning?
Do you think about all the things you need to do, the list is endless and you feel overwhelmed before you get out of bed.
You wake up in the morning, thinking about all the challenges that you are facing in your life, all the criticism that people have given you, and even the areas where you have not succeeded. Then you feel discouraged and de-motivated.
Think about what is missing in our lives; not enough money, no big title (Director, CEO) after your name and so on.
When faced with a problem what do you do?
Spend time discussing and analyzing the problem in great depth and then defining it in unsolvable terms?
Or do you find out who is to blame?
In order to achieve success we need to learn how to focus these thoughts on what we want.
One day the Zen master wanted to show his students a new technique of shooting an arrow. He told his students to cover his eyes with a cloth and then he shot his arrow. When he opened his eyes, he saw the target with no arrow in it and when he looked at his students, they looked embarrassed because their teacher had missed.
The Zen master asked them, “What lesson do you think I intend to teach you all today?” They answered, “We thought you would show us how to shoot at the target without looking.” The Zen master said, “No, I taught you that if you want to be successful in life, don’t forget the target. You have to keep an eye on the target, otherwise you may miss a good opportunity in life.” They looked at each other, impressed with the lesson.
The moral of the story is we need to consistently focus on what we want and we need to realize that:
- Our thoughts have a direct effect on our emotions
- Our destiny is consistently shaped by our thoughts.
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine
Tips: How to control the FOCUS of your thoughts
When faced with a challenge or a problem, spend 5% of your time discussing the problem, 95% of your time finding innovative and creative solutions. Remember “The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude to the problem”
Ensure that you do the following on a daily basis:
Learn– Learn something new on a daily basis. Learning does not end when you leave university. The journey of life is a learning process. Successful people converted their failures into stepping stones by learning from it and moving on. When you try something and it does not work out, do not despair, all you have to do is find a better way to do it.
Enjoy – Ensure that on a daily basis that you are able to enjoy and have fun. You have the ability to create memorable moments on a daily basis. Remember:
“life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but how many moments that take our breath away”
Appreciate – As soon as we develop a sense of appreciation (gratitude), we are shifting our focus of thoughts on what we have and what we have been able to achieve.
Reflect – Reflection allows for self assessment, checking that you are on the right track. Reflection gives you time to monitor your thoughts and actions, to check whether they are in alignment with your purpose in life.
Negative thoughts have a way of coming when you least expect it to. People spend too much time thinking about what happened to them in the past or the possibility of negative things happening to them in the future.
To get rid of these negative thoughts ask yourself one QUESTION “If this was my LAST day alive, what would I Love to do..” then go and do it.
Do not postpone living.